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How to Stop Worrying What Other People Think of You

How often do you hold back on doing something because you’re worried about how it might come across?

If you do, you’re definitely not alone.

Wanting to fit in and get the approval of others is pretty natural but that isn’t to say that it’s a healthy desire.

Worrying about what other people think of you can have a big effect on your self-esteem and can be pretty destructive. According to research, we tend to overestimate how often we’re thought of by other people and how negative these thoughts are. And sometimes, we convince ourselves that people will think badly of us when this isn’t actually the case at all.

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Our worries may not be in line with true reality, but the stress and anxiety that they create can be very detrimental for mental wellbeing. At its worse, it can be completely self-destructive. Worrying less about how you come across to other people is really important from a self-love perspective. Here are some tips to help you to achieve it!

Don’t judge yourself

It’s often true that worries about other people are actually triggered by how you see yourself. If your beliefs about yourself are negative, you may be expecting to see them reflected in the actions of other people and this can be at the root of your worries.

Showing yourself more love is a crucial first step in worrying less about other people and it can mean that you don’t need to seek approval from others at every turn. If you can treat yourself the same way that you’d like to be treated by other people, it can start to break the desire to get approval from them. This is where self-love becomes really important. Once you can stop judging yourself, you can channel your energies in more positive ways.

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Move away from cultural norms

Do you feel that you have to act in a certain way for people to like and accept you? Cultural norms can fuel worries about what other people think of you, especially if you’re not following them to a tee.

If you want to stop worrying what other people think, it can be really smart to break away from the idea that you have to fit in with the crowd. Give yourself permission to live how you want and not how you feel you should. If you answer to anyone at all, make it yourself. Focus on how you can be a better version of yourself, rather than trying to please others.

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Practice mindfulness

Because mindfulness is all about being in the present, it can be great for filtering out the past and the present. Most of our worries about what other people think of us is focused on things that have already happened or that may occur in the future.

If you practice mindfulness regularly, you’ll get really good at keeping your attention on the present and what is happening right now.

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Fulfil your passions

Channel your energies into doing things that make you happy and bring you personal fulfilment. As an added bonus, you’ll come into contact with people who share the same interests and passions as you. You’re likely to feel more comfortable in this situation and crucially, show your natural self. When you’re operating from a place where you feel really good about what you’re doing, you’ll worry less about what other people may think as you’ll know that you’re doing what is right for you.

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Be more ‘other centred’

We often define ourselves through our relationships and this can mean that we’re caught up in how other people see us. It’s only natural to want people to like you but putting so much focus on it can cause stress, anxiety and self-doubt. This can be picked up on by other people, which can affect the quality of your relationships and the friendships you’re able to build.

One way around this is to have a ‘other centered’ approach to your relationships. In a nutshell, this just means being compassionate and kind towards other people. Knowing that your actions are genuine and that you have the best intentions makes it easier to stop worrying how you will be received by others.

You can’t always control how people will behave towards you or how they will think but adopting an ‘other centred’ approach gives you the compassion to recognize that it’s less about you and more about them. If you can’t control it and you know you’re not to blame, why worry about it?

Want some more great self-care tips sent directly to you?  Check out my 7 Day Self-Love Challenge.  Self-love doesn’t just mean a spa day, a night out with friends or a nice bubble bath. Those are all enjoyable, but committing to self-love is a rewarding loyalty like no other. You can start with your tech-free time but join me for more stress-reducing strategies.  

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How often do you worry about what others think of you?  Are there certain situations you avoid because of this?  Let us know in the comments below.

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